As humanistic practitioners, we are interested in listening to you and trying to help you understand how your individual experiences, often from childhood, affect your life today and the way you view yourself. Our goal is to create a safe therapeutic environment for you to feel emotional freedom. Your therapist also wants to hear about your hopes, dreams, and fantasies. There is not one, specific point in life when people turn towards therapy, but it is often when confronted by the sense of feeling stuck or not finding meaning in life. Significant events such as bereavement and loss, relationship difficulties, abuse, questioning who one is, or feeling lost are common reasons for seeking a therapist. Depression and anxiety are often present and very difficult to get over alone.
Many clients come to us with an overriding concern, but work through not only that issue, but many others in addition. The process itself of therapy is a powerful catalyst for change and can lead clients to delve deeper into aspects of their personalities, relationship patterns, and behavior that they did not expect to encounter when beginning therapy. For this reason, it is best to begin therapy with an open mind.
Beginning therapy and moving through the process can be frightening as it often brings up difficult or painful emotions and memories. It is your therapist’s job to support you gently and safely in the processes of self-discovery, recovery, healing, and growth. We deeply respect every client, and feel honored to be able to play an important part in each of their lives.
Individual Therapy is used to improve overall well-being and resolve personal, relationship problems, and/or sexual issues from the individual perspective. Individual therapy can be helpful for people who are single, newly dating, or for those whose partners are not ready or unwilling to come to couple’s treatment. Some clients seek out individual therapy as it provides more individual attention and privacy for your concerns. Together we can figure out what might be getting in the way of you having the life or relationship that you desire but cannot currently achieve. We often feel unhappy with our current situation or unsure about how to get to the next step in our lives.
Your relationship may have ended but the feelings of sadness and loss can stick around for months and sometimes years afterwards. The focus for us now should be helping you to turn your divorce or break up into a new beginning.
Perhaps you feel lonely, lost, or heartbroken. Individual counseling for difficult separations and divorce offers hope and help to feel empowered and provide some clarity in a difficult transition. Together we will work to improve insight, communication, and stronger boundaries for yourself as well as your past, present, and future relationships. The clinicians at TherapyPort LLC are happy to help you with the many emotional and psychological challenges you may face during and after a break-up or difficult divorce including changes of lifestyle, career, finances, peer group, co-parenting, or navigating the dating world again.
Maybe you’re looking for love or recovering from relationship conflict or a break-up and seeking more understanding about yourself or your relationship history. Maybe you’ve been hurt and are questioning the idea of pursuing a romantic relationship at all. We can explore common fears and negative thought patterns such as:
-Am I doomed to be single forever?
-I feel like I’ve lost my soul mate. What do I do now?
-I’ve been hurt so badly. I’m ready to give up on love.
-I can’t stop thinking about him / her. Will I ever get over this heartbreak?
-I want a great relationship, but I always seem to self-sabotage
-I keep attracting the wrong kind of person
-I think I’m a good catch, but am I?
We specialize in helping newly single and heartbroken people bounce back from breakups, navigate commitment crises and infidelity, come to peace with past emotional hurts and injuries, and conquer loneliness to find connection.
Get a good start on your next relationship by developing a relationship with yourself—focusing on strengths, understanding your needs, as well as anticipating and working on future issues early in the recovery process.
Couples’ counseling helps you and your partner express your relationship needs, worries, or conflicts in a neutral and comfortable setting. Many couple’s issues are rooted in poor communication or strained connection, which often leads to marital conflict, sexual issues, infidelity or emotional withdrawal. Therapy helps to restore open communication and to recognize and release the negative emotions that are getting in the way of your relationship.
-Are you feeling distant or avoiding each other?
-Do you feel like roommates? Is the affection missing?
-Do you feel like you’re walking on eggshells or tired of having the same fight?
-Have you contemplated divorce or splitting up but aren’t sure whether to stay or go?
-Has an emotional or physical affair affected the trust in the relationship?
-Are you needing to work on the quality of the sex and/or communication you have with your partner?
Our passion is partnering with clients to overcome uncertainty and ambivalence in their relationships and break free from destructive self-doubts and negative interactions. I utilize the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples which aims to enhance awareness and effective communication, as well as emotional connection between partners. I work with couples to help each partner feel better understood, strengthen the respect they have for one another, learn to communicate more effectively and ask for what each partner needs.
Together, we will assess the relationship past and present to gain new understandings and develop a path for moving forward including:
-Modifying “gridlocked” conflict patterns
-Repairing past hurts and injuries
-Improving intimacy and communication
-Restoring trust and stability
-Getting back into a vibrant, passionate commitment with your partner (and yourself)
The Gottman Method of Couple’s Therapy is based on Dr. John Gottman’s research that began in the 1970s and continues to this day. The research has focused on what makes relationships succeed or fail. From this research, Drs. John and Julie Gottman have created a method of therapy that emphasizes as nuts-and-bolts approach to improving clients’ relationships.
This method is designed to help teach specific tools to deepen friendship and intimacy in your relationship. To help you productively manage conflicts, you will be given methods to manage resolvable problems and dialogue about gridlocked (or perpetual) issues. We will also work together to help you appreciate your relationship’s strengths and to gently navigate through its vulnerabilities.
Gottman Method Couples Therapy consists of five parts:
3. Phasing out of therapy
5. Outcome Evaluation
Early in the assessment phase, you will be given some written materials to complete that will help us better understand your relationship. In the first sessions we will talk about the history of your relationship, areas of concern, and goals for treatment.
In the next session, I will meet with each of you individually to learn your personal histories and to give each of you an opportunity to share thoughts, feelings, and perceptions. In the final session of assessment, I will share with you my recommendations for treatment and work to define mutually agreed upon goals for your therapy.
Most of the work will involve sessions in which you will be seen together as a couple. However, there may be times when individual sessions are recommended. I may also give you exercises to practice between sessions. The length of therapy will be determined by your specific needs and goals. In the course of therapy, we will establish points at which to evaluate your satisfaction and progress. Also, I will encourage you to raise any questions or concerns that you have about therapy at any time.
In the later stage of therapy, we will phase out or meet less frequently in order for you to test out new relationship skills and to prepare for termination of the therapy. Although you may terminate therapy whenever you wish, it is most helpful to have at least one session together to say good-bye.
In the outcome-evaluation phase, four follow-up sessions are planned: one after six months, one after 12 months, one after 18 months, and one after two years. These sessions have been shown through research to significantly decrease the chances of relapse into previous, unhelpful patterns. The purpose of these follow-up sessions then will be to fine-tune any of your relationship skills if needed and to evaluate the effectiveness of the therapy received.
*Please note that this is a general overview of the Gottman Method. There may be some variations in this approach based on the judgment of your therapist.